What is trust? Is it important in our day to day life? Is it just an excuse for us to load our responsibilities to some other person? Trust, like most other things, is not something you achieve instantly or in a short time even. Trust is built over truth. Trust is a wall which is built brick by brick over the course of a relationship, each brick an incident where you have the chance to think for yourself and decide in your favor over the relationship or your partner.
I don’t think trust is an excuse that we give our own self so we can transfer some of our responsibilities to another person. I like to think that trust is something far more important in a relationship without which it can never be complete. I believe trust defines our ability to be human, to have faith in our fellow beings to do the right thing. It is a special allowance that we bestow upon another human being to decide for us, a right that we do not give everyone easily. It is a gift of promise that binds two different lives into a single knot sharing everything.
There are different levels of trust depending upon the relationship we share with different people; parents, friends, family and colleagues. This also defines how much we share with anyone at any given point of time. The closer we grow with friends, the more we entrust them with; the farther we fall away from family, the lesser we share with them. Trust could be defined as the backbone of any relationship. I mean, would you share your bed with someone you do not trust? Would you share a bowl of soup from a person you do not trust?
There is no one in this world who doesn’t trust anyone, neither is there a person who is not trusted by anyone. Our nature wants us to be trusted and in turn we trust in people who prove themselves. As I said before, we all make mistakes all the time. Sometimes we break the trust we built. It may not be intentional but us thinking it will be better that way. Broken trust is hard to build back just like broken glass. You can rework it but it’ll never be the same and it will require more than what it took the first time to build it back.
When the other person trusts you completely and they simply forgive you for your trespasses, this is the person you need to be more careful with. The chances they give you will not be indefinite and when they stop giving you another chance, there is a very good possibility that you are not getting another. If you really value the relationship over your selfish desire to act on your impulses again, you should take a step back and evaluate your life choices. A relationship where a partner trusts you completely is not something that you can easily come by.
Trust is a valuable gift that someone gives you when they think you are a part of them. Breaking that trust is like killing the part they shared with you in the first place. In a relationship such as marriage, that part is half of them and breaking their trust is synonymous to delivering them a killing blow yourself. Close your eyes and imagine the person you trust the most. Now imagine them reaching inside your mouth, clamping down on your stomach and pulling you inside out. Trust which was built over years, feels like this, when broken.
Anything can be fixed when the right resources and the right amount of effort is put in it. Sure, it may not be the same but it can be recovered to the best level possible. A known devil is always better than the unknown and this holds true for relationships too.
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